1. Be present.
Please do not avoid your friend or loved one because of not being sure of what to say. Acknowledge that you don't know what to say. Silence can and does speak volumes.
2. Be practical.
Visit after confirming it's convenient to receive you. Provide meals. Help baby sit. Mow the lawn or get it mowed. Help remove snow. Walk the dog. Please let's not say call me if you need any help. That's additional responsibility for the person who is grieving.
3. Be empathetic.
It's not about you. When they feel ready to share, just listen and don't recount how you totally understand how they feel. No you don't. This is not the time to share your news.
4. Be platitude free.
It's not the time to say any or a combination of : It's all for the best." "Your loved ones are in a better place." "You will never be left to carry more than you can bear."
5. Be persistent
Do you know the days and or seasons? Do persist in reaching out around those dates/seasons, Mother's Day, Father's etc.
How have you supported or felt supported? Please do share.
Until next time, Be Mindful as you support and are supported.
Jumoke Omojola is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker in Omaha NE.
Call her today at 4029816624 for a free 30 minute conversation.